Eek! I know. I’ve been debating with myself on this one, as it’s such an emotional topic.
Let me start by saying I’m pro-choice.
Let me follow up by saying that doesn’t mean I’m pro-abortion.
I deplore abortion. HATE IT. But, I see way too many problems happening if it were made illegal. And, I see way too many problem with other people telling women what can and cannot be done with their bodies.
For some reason, when some people hear the word pro-choice, they think BABY KILLER!! It’s not only untrue, it’s hurtful.
For some, this is a black and white issue. For others, it has every shade of gray imaginable. I happen to fall into the latter category.
Now, I despise that people use abortion as a method of birth control. It breaks my heart in every way.
But, how can those women be lumped in with the women who are facing a very, very sick baby? Or those that have been raped? We simply can’t. We can’t govern a persons body (or we shouldn’t be governing a persons body).
My moral code screams that abortion is wrong. But, it’s just that – MY moral code. The minute we start pushing our morals onto others, it becomes a problem.
I got pregnant with my oldest out of marriage and on birth control. The thought of abortion never crossed my mind. But, I can’t fault others who are doing everything they can to be safe and find themselves in the same situation, and do consider it, or even go through with it.
Adoption is an argument for many pro-lifers (I hate that term, aren’t we all pro-life?). For me, this would always be a better option. But again, you can’t force others to feel the same way you do.
I’m so against abortion, that I won’t even use hormonal birth control, because if you read the fine print, there are abortive proprieties. Does that mean that I think birth control should be outlawed? NO WAY.
Pro-lifers (forgive me as I’m about to generalize) often say that they are “ok” with abortion in cases of rape or when a baby will die. Well, how do we go about enforcing that? Who bears the burden of proof in the case of rape? Who gets to decide which babies are sick enough? Again, I see these being moral issues. You deny one woman because her rape case isn’t strong enough, yet allow it for another. Isn’t that a bit like playing God?
I realize that a lot of people’s stance on abortion is rooted in their religion. My argument for that is……isn’t final judgement up to God? Why can’t you stay out of it and let him decide in the end? You live your life the way you think he would want/for him, and let others do the same. They are the ones that have to live with it, not you. Judge them all you want, but don’t press your morals on them.
It’s all about choice. And, I can’t take that choice away. I struggle with this, a lot. I wonder to myself when life begins (I know when a heart starts beating, but when does that little person have a soul?). I read on it, and think on it. In the end, I just don’t know what’s right. But I do know it’s not up to me to decide what is right for others.
So, what do you think? I promise I won’t rip anyone apart for disagreeing with me.